Life meters out unfairness with alacrity. I'm convinced. Late for work? You'll hit every red light on your route. First big oral board for that dream job, and you start rambling like a schizophrenic psychopath. Meet the woman of your dreams in a coffee shop but then blow it talking about your Mad magazine collection. Bottom line, you've had your collisions with life and come up short.
It's easy to start pushing back. Demanding a raise when maybe you don't deserve it. Ripping on your idiot boss when really, you're the problem. Insisting the gallery is failing to sell your work, when your work is subpar. A thousand indignities and broken dreams can turn you into a taker. Someone who constantly demands more of others but fails to deliver yourself. Someone who's lying to yourself. Many of us are one disappointment away from becoming a taker. The question is, how do we navigate around such times?
There's nothing wrong with accepting help when you're down. A hand up or a way out. We are blessed in this world to have earthly angels who step in to help the unfortunate, the homeless and the forgotten. But in the end true salvation must come from within.
You have to find the strength and personal power to get back in the game. Habits need to be changed and new approaches tried. I've read that it takes about thirty days to develop a new habit.
Some find a path through faith. Others absorb the inspiration of more successful people. A renewed focus on personal discipline can go a long way. For me, change happens when the thing I want is greater than the thing I must give up. And that's what's so great about becoming a maker.
Creating something of value is deeply satisfying. Same for crafting an object of beauty. When you turn your attention to making things of value, your sense of well being and personal fulfillment grows. I think most people understand this but get embroiled in petty complaints and emotional traps that blur their clarity of thought.
Make time for your art, for the things you are passionate about. Whatever you are building, be it a better relationship, piece of art or internet company, give it your all. Don't let the petty things in life and the unproductive battles disrupt your creation. Because what the world needs are more makers and fewer takers.